Why my husband felt hurt

Raga

In addition to the CDs that you suggested, I bought the “Welcome Change” and “Bach Flower Meditation” on the www.1minyoga.com  site.

But, whenever I listen to “Welcome Change” CD I get a slight headache. The same is not the case when I listen to the other CDs – Harmony, Forgiveness, Together Divine, I love myself and Bach Flower meditation.

Why does this happen like this? Should I continue listening or should I stop? Please advise me.

Shobana

Listen through speakers. Not by headphones. The welcome change is about changing oneself. Probably there is resistance to change. No one has complained so far about this.

Raga

It worked! I stopped listening to Welcome Change CD over the headphones and started listening through speakers and my headache stopped.

In fact, I keep running these CDs all throughout the day whenever it is possible and it is so pleasant. I am also using the “Release Resistance” CD while chanting and I find that I have been able to identify where I went wrong with my husband. Something that I didn’t identify exactly, but now I could pin-point that.

I can now empathize with him as to why did he get so much hurt. Something of my past which I thought is un-important and did not tell him because I felt it is not necessary or important for our marriage that he came across when he hacked my mails.

He got hurt that I did not share with him. He felt I don’t feel him important enough to share with him. From my perspective, he is being irrational. But, from his perspective, he is not able to accept that I did not share with him everything.

It is not necessary what I think about the situation. What is necessary is that I understand his pain when he read all that.

Whether he is right or wrong, I am not the judge, God only is the right judge and whatever HE decides is right.

Now, I really want to make amends. I really want to give my husband so much love and happiness and take away all his hurt and pain. I really hope Divine grace showers on my marriage and my husband comes out of this misunderstanding and suffering.

Thank you and Naran very much for giving such wonderful methods for overcoming so many problems of all.

Related Blogs

The Need for Forgiveness: http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2009/07/10/the-need-for-forgiveness-and-the-story-of-drona/

A tendency to blame others: http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2013/09/03/i-love-to-take-control-of-my-life/

Pat Yourself in a Big Way

Patting Meditation

This meditation is to pat ourselves. Let us not feel anything wrong with us. We develop interest in healing after we get 40 years old. This is called as making up or correcting ourselves. We resort to all types of healing. Interestingly, without all that fuss we have achieved so much.  

(When I say pat, pat the left shoulder. Left side is for receiving. We need our love. We need ourselves)

When you affirm, “I accept myself totally”, then divine energy flows into you. Self-appreciation is a must. That’s why I gave this meditation to you.

Meditation

Close your eyes.

Relax yourself.

Feel the feet where it really anchors and feel your body.

Just be with the body. Be with yourself.

I am a loving person.

Think of days where you expressed your love from the heart and pat yourself.

Appreciate yourself. “Hey you have done a good thing. You did a good job.”

Say your name again and again and pat yourself in the back of the body at the same place.

Now think of the days or moments when you really laughed and enjoyed. It may be an ice cream. Think of all the days where you really enjoyed and laughed out from the heart. You are really great and you really know how to enjoy. You are a wonderful person. When you do that you do with all the smiles in your face because you are visualizing your days of enjoyment, your days of laughter. Joy should reflect on your face.

Think of all your achievements in school days or college days – any achievement, even scoring a first mark in any subject. You are an achiever. Pat yourself.

Think of all the appreciation you got from others. You are a nice person; you are trustworthy and pat yourself.

Thank yourself. A sense of achievement should be on the face with a feeling, ‘I have been appreciated for this’. Really that person appreciated you from the heart.

Think of all the persons who cheated you who had hurt your feelings. Pat yourself for managing your life with them.

Think of the period of your struggle with the body. The body had some ailment. You went to the doctor and consulted so many other people. Somehow or other you are still living and have come out of the ailment. Pat yourself for managing well and coming out of the ailment.

Think of the period of struggle with money. You are still here. Pat yourself since you have come a long way. Money is one part of life. You have successfully managed it.

Think of any event that you realized that god is there. There is always a force behind all these happenings. Love yourself for understanding that there is a divine force behind you. Keep your hand in the heart and say ‘Oh god you are my light. You are my peace. Guide my steps. Illuminate my heart. Lead in the paths that go straight to Thee. Open my eyes whenever necessary. Be here and let me feel the connection’. Thank yourself and pat yourself for being connected with god.

Benefits of doing this meditation

We always speak negatively of ourselves. All those negative thoughts will go into negative beliefs and plug the mental body. That is why we repeat same mistake again and again and undergo the same experience. Now we know how to thank ourselves and appreciate ourselves.

In future also there is always divinity which will take care of your future. Say now, ‘I am at peace’.

PS

This meditation is available as the first part of the ‘I Love Myself CD’. It is stored in Alpha better effect. Contact the centre.

Inner Smile Brings an Outer Smile

We normally ignore our organs. We always take the body for granted. The day when we send our love, our smile to the organs, they become our friends. A friendly relationship with our organs is a must to maintain our harmony outside. If there is conflict or disharmony in others, become silent and send your love to your organs. A weekly listening of the CD will establish harmony in every aspect of our life.

– From the introduction of Inner Smile CD

Her boss was rude about her report

Anjali’s boss was not a typical boss. However, for some reason he couldn’t accept the annual report she prepared for the board of directors. He was critical of her report by all means, even though she felt she had done a great job.

Anjali approached me to find a solution to her problem, as she felt she can’t make any more improvement. From my work with her, I knew she didn’t give due care to her body. So I didn’t prescribe her any remedies. I just asked her to listen to the CD for twice a day, for a week and then on a regular basis for once a week.

She listened to it, as per my instructions. After a couple of days, her boss approached her and told her that he was over-cautious as the report is for the board of directors. He apologized for his over-reaction and suggested that it would be enough if only a couple of minor changes are made to the report. Anjali made the changes, which she felt was quite acceptable and easy to make.

Moral of the story

When you show love to your body, others will show love to you and your work.

Resolve your financial issues

Mr. ER

I had been trying many ways to increase my finances and increase higher and continuous inflow of money into my life. My ambition and dream is to have financial freedom.

Recently I came to know about switch words. Do switch words work 100%? Actually, I am writing this mail to you mainly for the ‘Abundance’ CD that will work on the subconscious mind to attract more money into my life.

Naran

I will ship the CD. Switch words will work 100%.

Tell me what you are doing. Is there any problem with earning? Why do you want to have more money? What will be your state of mind if you don’t amass wealth?  What feelings and thoughts that will come to you then? What will you do with the money?

Mr. ER

You asked me why I want money. It’s like you asked me why I want food and clothes.

I come from a middle-class background where our life is always decided by lack of money. We have to think 20 times to spend 10 rupees. Almost all the problems in my life and my bitterest experiences were due to money.

I don’t like my work either. But have to do for money. I don’t like the place. I don’t like my present life. Life is full of compromises. I don’t have financial freedom. I want a life of my own.

My father says ‘to come up in life, we have to work very hard.’ If that is true, a labour person works very hard but hardly gets even food. As Deepak Chopra says the shortest way to get anything is correct not the hard way.

So I turned to spirituality to raise my standard. Not only my financial development, but my spiritual and all-round development is dependent on money. I feel switch words are a gift to me from the universe for my years of quest to change my life. Please help me with effective ways to manifest money along with switch words.

Naran

Chant “WILLOW RELEASE RESISTANCE FIND COUNT DIVINE” 200 TO 300 times daily.

Release all your aversion to the present state. Any state we have to accept and overgrow it.

“I don’t like my work. I don’t like the place. I don’t like my present life. Life is full of compromises. I don’t have financial freedom. I want a life of my own” – if these thoughts occupy the mind, money will not come. Money will flow in when you willingly accept the situation. Any situation is designed by God.

Start liking the job. If you do it with aversion, and don’t contribute your work with full heart, you are stopping your growth. Daily thank the company who gave you the employment. Thank all the people in the office. Start liking the place. Compromises are there in everybody’s life. They are made to move forward in life and not to get stagnated.

Write “DIVINE LOVE MANIFEST IN MY HEART”.

I will also send you the CD entitled “I Love Myself” also, in addition to the Abundance CD.

Best of luck

Explanation

Handle resentment and aversion: WILLOW, Bach Flower Remedy

Release our resistance to growth, abundance and success: RELEASE RESISTANCE, switch word

Find money: FIND COUNT DIVINE, switch words

“I LOVE MYSELF” CD is a subliminal CD to help you love self, relationships, career and life in general and “ABUNDANCE” CD helps you to accumulate wealth with happiness.