Why my husband felt hurt

Raga

In addition to the CDs that you suggested, I bought the “Welcome Change” and “Bach Flower Meditation” on the www.1minyoga.com  site.

But, whenever I listen to “Welcome Change” CD I get a slight headache. The same is not the case when I listen to the other CDs – Harmony, Forgiveness, Together Divine, I love myself and Bach Flower meditation.

Why does this happen like this? Should I continue listening or should I stop? Please advise me.

Shobana

Listen through speakers. Not by headphones. The welcome change is about changing oneself. Probably there is resistance to change. No one has complained so far about this.

Raga

It worked! I stopped listening to Welcome Change CD over the headphones and started listening through speakers and my headache stopped.

In fact, I keep running these CDs all throughout the day whenever it is possible and it is so pleasant. I am also using the “Release Resistance” CD while chanting and I find that I have been able to identify where I went wrong with my husband. Something that I didn’t identify exactly, but now I could pin-point that.

I can now empathize with him as to why did he get so much hurt. Something of my past which I thought is un-important and did not tell him because I felt it is not necessary or important for our marriage that he came across when he hacked my mails.

He got hurt that I did not share with him. He felt I don’t feel him important enough to share with him. From my perspective, he is being irrational. But, from his perspective, he is not able to accept that I did not share with him everything.

It is not necessary what I think about the situation. What is necessary is that I understand his pain when he read all that.

Whether he is right or wrong, I am not the judge, God only is the right judge and whatever HE decides is right.

Now, I really want to make amends. I really want to give my husband so much love and happiness and take away all his hurt and pain. I really hope Divine grace showers on my marriage and my husband comes out of this misunderstanding and suffering.

Thank you and Naran very much for giving such wonderful methods for overcoming so many problems of all.

Related Blogs

The Need for Forgiveness: http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2009/07/10/the-need-for-forgiveness-and-the-story-of-drona/

A tendency to blame others: http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2013/09/03/i-love-to-take-control-of-my-life/

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SG

I am from Detroit. I am very much thankful to you for all your advices which helped me a lot.

I also do the Forgiving exercise as and when I feel necessary at any time. I also chant Together Divine, few Slokas and Switch Words as and when required.

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I am happier to talk with it every day.  It will help me in minor things and also in major things. I also thank wolf every day for all the help it gives me.

Amazing Help

Thank You very much for giving such AMAZING Help in blogs, which is immensely useful for people like me who stay far away from Chennai and would never have known anything about them.

I will always be thankful to you, for making me learn about forgiving exercise.

Act of Forgiveness

When my brother brought the Forgiveness Exercise book and gave me I thought what’s up with my brother? Why he wants to give me a Forgiveness Book?

My brother told me that Naran told that this is a very important book. Then I decided I will first read the book.

I liked the way you explained that we need to forgive others for our own self and I started practicing the forgiveness exercise. It took a lot of time for me to forgive the first person on my list.

Slowly I learned that even when I am hurt I always feel better when I do forgiving exercise.

I want to die before you…

Mahesh

I heard these words from my wife, while I was listening to the “CIRCULAR BREATHING” CD.

She was arguing with her father, a widower and who is staying with us.

His son is living in US and so we offered to take care of his stay.

I didn’t want to break into their fight as it would mean either I hurt the feelings of my wife or my father-in-law.

While I was pondering over these words of my wife, the mantra NA HUM was playing in the CD.

It means I am dead – meaning my ego is dead.

I thought there is a divine message for me here.

So I decided to shut my ego and not to interfere with the fight.

After one hour while I was having my breakfast, my father-in-law approached me.

My wife was silent standing next to him with guilt all over her face.

He apologized for the quarrel happened in the morning, as it would have disturbed my morning Pranayama (yogic breathing) session.

He said here afterwards he will make sure that such things never happen.

My wife’s silence seems to be in total concurrence with him.

I don’t have to say I am quite relived as I had avoided disasters – today and in the future too, from happening.

Till today I do this without involving myself in any event.

Naran

Just observe what is happening around you.

Do not judge or react or participate.

To know more about the “Circular Breathing” CD, click this link: https://naranhealingproducts.wordpress.com/2012/10/01/circular-breathing-cd-benefits-and-instructions/

Pat Yourself in a Big Way

Patting Meditation

This meditation is to pat ourselves. Let us not feel anything wrong with us. We develop interest in healing after we get 40 years old. This is called as making up or correcting ourselves. We resort to all types of healing. Interestingly, without all that fuss we have achieved so much.  

(When I say pat, pat the left shoulder. Left side is for receiving. We need our love. We need ourselves)

When you affirm, “I accept myself totally”, then divine energy flows into you. Self-appreciation is a must. That’s why I gave this meditation to you.

Meditation

Close your eyes.

Relax yourself.

Feel the feet where it really anchors and feel your body.

Just be with the body. Be with yourself.

I am a loving person.

Think of days where you expressed your love from the heart and pat yourself.

Appreciate yourself. “Hey you have done a good thing. You did a good job.”

Say your name again and again and pat yourself in the back of the body at the same place.

Now think of the days or moments when you really laughed and enjoyed. It may be an ice cream. Think of all the days where you really enjoyed and laughed out from the heart. You are really great and you really know how to enjoy. You are a wonderful person. When you do that you do with all the smiles in your face because you are visualizing your days of enjoyment, your days of laughter. Joy should reflect on your face.

Think of all your achievements in school days or college days – any achievement, even scoring a first mark in any subject. You are an achiever. Pat yourself.

Think of all the appreciation you got from others. You are a nice person; you are trustworthy and pat yourself.

Thank yourself. A sense of achievement should be on the face with a feeling, ‘I have been appreciated for this’. Really that person appreciated you from the heart.

Think of all the persons who cheated you who had hurt your feelings. Pat yourself for managing your life with them.

Think of the period of your struggle with the body. The body had some ailment. You went to the doctor and consulted so many other people. Somehow or other you are still living and have come out of the ailment. Pat yourself for managing well and coming out of the ailment.

Think of the period of struggle with money. You are still here. Pat yourself since you have come a long way. Money is one part of life. You have successfully managed it.

Think of any event that you realized that god is there. There is always a force behind all these happenings. Love yourself for understanding that there is a divine force behind you. Keep your hand in the heart and say ‘Oh god you are my light. You are my peace. Guide my steps. Illuminate my heart. Lead in the paths that go straight to Thee. Open my eyes whenever necessary. Be here and let me feel the connection’. Thank yourself and pat yourself for being connected with god.

Benefits of doing this meditation

We always speak negatively of ourselves. All those negative thoughts will go into negative beliefs and plug the mental body. That is why we repeat same mistake again and again and undergo the same experience. Now we know how to thank ourselves and appreciate ourselves.

In future also there is always divinity which will take care of your future. Say now, ‘I am at peace’.

PS

This meditation is available as the first part of the ‘I Love Myself CD’. It is stored in Alpha better effect. Contact the centre.

Smiling at your partner for life

About Inner Smile CD

The inner smile is a friendly smile from the heart to our own organs, which we normally tend to ignore. However, this is required by us, to our bodies.

We smile at our friends, while we always take our body for granted. The day we send our love and smile to the organs, they become our friends too.

These friendly relationships with our organs, is a must to maintain our harmony with outside. If there is a conflict or disharmony with others, then become silent and send your love to your organs. Those issues will be resolved.

The CD is prepared to give Inner Smile and Love to our organs. Even though the approach is similar to the one followed by Inner Smile techniques of Tao, the techniques followed in the CD are quite different from them.

Benefits of sending Inner Smile and Love to Your Body

General Benefit

Once in a week listening to the CD will establish harmony in every aspect of your life.

Benefits created by Organs when you do Inner Smile to them

Smile at the Organ	Benefits
Eyes	See yourself with love and understanding
Ears	Listen with love
Nose	Your  need to love yourself increases
Mouth	For the love that nourishes
Tongue	Increases ability to taste the pleasures of life
Face	Express your feelings truly
Brain	Teaches all life is a change and anything will move on
Throat	Sing the joys of love; speak up for yourself with love
Lungs	Take charge of your life
Heart	Become the centre of love and security; love yourself and all others totally; find love and enthusiasm everywhere
Gall Bladder	To release your condemning tendency, pride and bitterness
Stomach	Gain ability to digest every moment of every day
Pancreas	Your time is filled  with joy; release desire to control your life
Spleen	You will be supported in your life
Intestine	To assimilate good
Large Intestine	Release past; you will feel entry of new and fresh matter into your life
Genital organ	Be balanced in your creative flow; you approve of yourself totally
Kidneys	Life is in divine order and only good comes from each experience
Spinal Cord	Fear, resentment, guilt, victim mentality, and bitterness is released;  stuff tears are wiped out; fear of rejection, fear of life and all of fear, pain, hurt, cry for love is released
Hands, Arms and Shoulders	Handle all your experiences with love and joy
Neck	Teaches flexibility, develops an understanding that it is safe to consider other’s view points
Knees	Learn forgiveness; bend and flow with ease and love; life is yours
Legs	Life is for you
Feet	You are safe
Blood and Blood vessels	To be friendly with all
Skin	Protector of individuality; brings harmony, peace and joy around