Why my husband felt hurt

Raga

In addition to the CDs that you suggested, I bought the “Welcome Change” and “Bach Flower Meditation” on the www.1minyoga.com  site.

But, whenever I listen to “Welcome Change” CD I get a slight headache. The same is not the case when I listen to the other CDs – Harmony, Forgiveness, Together Divine, I love myself and Bach Flower meditation.

Why does this happen like this? Should I continue listening or should I stop? Please advise me.

Shobana

Listen through speakers. Not by headphones. The welcome change is about changing oneself. Probably there is resistance to change. No one has complained so far about this.

Raga

It worked! I stopped listening to Welcome Change CD over the headphones and started listening through speakers and my headache stopped.

In fact, I keep running these CDs all throughout the day whenever it is possible and it is so pleasant. I am also using the “Release Resistance” CD while chanting and I find that I have been able to identify where I went wrong with my husband. Something that I didn’t identify exactly, but now I could pin-point that.

I can now empathize with him as to why did he get so much hurt. Something of my past which I thought is un-important and did not tell him because I felt it is not necessary or important for our marriage that he came across when he hacked my mails.

He got hurt that I did not share with him. He felt I don’t feel him important enough to share with him. From my perspective, he is being irrational. But, from his perspective, he is not able to accept that I did not share with him everything.

It is not necessary what I think about the situation. What is necessary is that I understand his pain when he read all that.

Whether he is right or wrong, I am not the judge, God only is the right judge and whatever HE decides is right.

Now, I really want to make amends. I really want to give my husband so much love and happiness and take away all his hurt and pain. I really hope Divine grace showers on my marriage and my husband comes out of this misunderstanding and suffering.

Thank you and Naran very much for giving such wonderful methods for overcoming so many problems of all.

Related Blogs

The Need for Forgiveness: http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2009/07/10/the-need-for-forgiveness-and-the-story-of-drona/

A tendency to blame others: http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2013/09/03/i-love-to-take-control-of-my-life/

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The Accused

Anita

Last Saturday, I have gone through you FORGIVENESS book (one of my favorite book now.) and from Sunday, I have started the forgiving exercise for my boss, my MIL and my husband.

And all of sudden my boss who is actually very angry on me for some misunderstandings started talking to me and appreciating my work. I am very happy.

Further, there are still no changes in my MIL and husband but I am continuing the same as it is only 2 days now I have started forgiving exercise and I can’t expect sudden changes, so early in them but I will continue.

Naran

Our life will be reflected in other parts of the life.

One’s Unforgiving attitude, blaming tendency, in one place, may result in his being accused in another place.

When a problem crops up in the office, and when we are blamed, we never think of the connection of our mental state.

One might have anger and resentment towards one of the family members or all.

This anger and resentment carried in the mind, results in a situation unexpectedly wherein you’re blamed or accused falsely. This event is a divine call to you to correct your own attitude in the house.

Unfortunately, we don’t think about ourselves, further going into the blaming mode – now blaming the office colleague or boss also for his wrongs.

The truth is “The accused is the Accuser”

Nothing in life can be overlooked. Everything happens to us to evolve.